Married to Mr. Clean

Ages ago, when I was in hot pursuit of Mr. Right, I read a magazine article that suggested to envision “the one” and list down specific details about his looks. Write down every thing you want him to be, from the color of his hair to his shoe size. Being the hopeless romantic that I was then, that really got me all giddy! I grabbed my pen and pictured Mr. Right on a piece of paper. Of course I had an exhaustible list. We’re talking about Mr. Right here! I inserted the list somewhere and completely forgot about it.

A few years after that, I found my list again. By this time I was already married to Peewee, my husband. I showed him the list and he thought it was cute. I threw the paper out after that. I was trying to recall what I had written there to be included in this blog post, only three items came to mind:

Preferably wearing glasses, connotes intelligence (duh)

Must have hairless arms (I’ll explain later)

Must look and smell clean

Sadly, Peewee does not wear glasses, that’s okay. At least he has 20/20 vision and is really smart!  When I met him 12 years ago, I did try to smell him secretly and I knew he has wearing men’s perfume 🙂 When we sat down to chat, I noticed that he did have smooth, less hairy arms! What’s with the hairless arm? I’m just not a fan of androgynous male species.

I knew that my husband was a neat freak because when we first got married, he used to spend countless hours on the car cleaning and detailing it. Even before Meguiars detailing in car wash became a hit, he was already detailing every nook and cranny of his SUV.

In fairness to him, when it comes to cleanliness, he really is Mr. Clean. He will clean the entire house from the bedrooms to bathroom. If the kids’ toys needs scrubbing, he would be enjoying every moment with the soap and basin of water. He would also brush their Crocs too with an old toothbrush.

We have different sets of slippers at home. We have house slippers and slippers for going out. And when he sees you wearing your outside slippers inside, you will surely get some scolding, yes, even me. Every time he arrives from school, before even settling in, he would make sure every thing is packed away or in their proper places. If he sees the bathroom floor wet, he would grab the mop and dry it out.

When you look at our closet, he only has two three stacks: going-out shirts, house shirts and shorts and they are all pristine and neatly folded. While mine looks like a dog tried to find it’s favorite bone there somewhere.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not sloppy. I do clean the house daily and tidy up too. I do general cleaning when I’m angry (that’s another post right there) But I’m not too obsessed with cleaning.

What’s the downside of being married to Mr. Clean? Honestly, I do get insecure at times. You see, Saturdays are my rest day, since I don’t teach the kids on weekends and I don’t have to wake up very early. It’s my lazy day. I don’t want to do any chores on weekends. But as soon as Peewee finishes breakfast, he grabs the broom and starts sweeping,  wiping, and scrubbing. And he will not stop. This annoys me at times so I end up cleaning too because I feel guilty seeing him doing the chores while I relax on a Saturday morning.

One time I told him about what I was feeling, that I feel bad for taking some time off on a weekend. He said he will not take it against me. He just wants to clean. He can only relax when he knows the house is “sparkling”. There were times, when I just let him clean all he wants while I do other stuff not related to cleaning or tidying up the house.

Don’t get me wrong. I love my husband. He is not perfect, neither am I. But there are just some things he does that annoys me at times. But that’s part of the deal right? You’re marrying the Mr. Right…Mr. Right for you 🙂

18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Genesis 2:18

22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib[h] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said,“This is now bone of my bones     and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’     for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:22-24

It’s 3 P.M. here and he will be arriving in an hour. I have to finish this blog post so I could tidy up before he starts cleaning again.

scrubbing the kids' study table in our old apartment

scrubbing the kids’ study table in our old apartment

Does your hubby have some habits that sometimes annoys you? Share with me.


Answered Prayer

I have been praying for a specific item for quite some time now. I was unaware that my prayer has already been answered recently until the Lord himself reminded me. You see, I have been asking the Lord to change the heart of my husband regarding a decision we both have to make about the future of our family. Sorry but I’d rather keep the details to myself first:-)

I think I have been praying about this item for a year or two now and honestly, I have lost hope somehow. I felt that even if I try to persuade my husband to be open to my suggestions, he just wouldn’t budge. He is not just that type. But nothing is impossible with God. I have to keep the faith so I included this item again in my prayer list.

Ezekiel 36:26 says, ” I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.”

Truly, I saw how God has worked in the heart of my husband. God has opened the closed heart of my husband so that he could see the possibilities and opportunities for our family. Lately, he has been busy studying these opportunities for us online and has been taking small steps too towards that goal.

Have you ever had those “aha moments” with God? Well, I surely had one just last week. It was then that God made me see how He has worked in the heart of my husband. I think it was around breakfast and my husband and I were talking about something. Then, he just blurted something like, “I’ve realized that God probably wanted us to do this. So I might as well give it a shot. If He wants us to go through it then He would allow things to happen.” I totally agreed with what he said. And it was only after he left  did I got a sort of slap at the back of my head, as if God was saying, “Hey, didn’t you hear what your husband said?” Hello??? Isn’t that what  you were praying for?”

First of all, God doesn’t talk that way, it’s just how I imagined Him talking to me, His dense daughter 🙂 When I realized what was happening, I almost cried. I was overwhelmed by gratitude towards God that I really felt Him so close to me that day.

Over lunch, I just had to share my feelings to my husband. I fought back the tears first, and told him that I was happy that he had a change of heart. I know that it was God working in him.

We presented our plans to God and we are waiting whether he will approve it or not. It’s easy to say we will accept whatever His decision is especially if it’s not favorable but even if he does not give us His blessing, I will look at it a different perspective. I will see it as his loving hand protecting us or his hand showing us another way towards achieving that dream of ours. I mean, the earth is His and everything in it, right? He owns everything in this world, He even owns our life. So whatever he wills for us, we will obey.

The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it,
    the world, and all who live in it;
for he founded it on the seas
    and established it on the waters. Psalm 24:1-2